Divorce and Children

[Bworl]

You know, the biggest problem with these little threads that YOU start, is the fact that you are a moderator.

Because of that, these threads appear to have an authority, a credibility.

You do NOT possess the professional expertise in the form of training and education to make statements about the children of divorce.

For every story like YOURS, where there appear to be lifelong wounds that never heal, there are many other stories where children not only survive but thrive.

Given how many of the situations on this board will end in divorce, and how many of them have children involved, all you are managing to do is bring additional pain to these people.


You say that children will not be ok and will not be able to thrive and blossom.

Then turn around and say it will take quite a lot of work.


Well.....DUH!!


What about this mess will not take quite a bit of work!


I agree with about the last 1/3 or 1/4 of your post. But then, you are saying there pretty much what I tried to say to FIB.

Find a way to find peace between the two spouses, and focus on the children so that their life is a peaceful and normal as possible given the circumstances.


I think what really gets to me sometimes about you SG is that you feel no compunction whatsoever to use horrible scare tactics to almost bully people into NOT divorcing.


There is nothing healthy about a child watching ONE of his/her parents spend 3, 4, 5 or more years living a life where they weep, are anxious, cry for no good reason. There is nothing healthy about a child growing up learning that marriage vows mean that Daddy is allowed to live apart from us, with another person, stopping over every other weekend if it fits into his schedule.


If you're going to demonize children of divorce, let's at least be fair and present the WHOLE story for what you're suggesting as an alternative.


Then go take a look at this board and tell me how many of the situations here right now are HEALTHY for the children involved.



It's called propaganda, when the truth is what's called for.



Bill