Chris, first of all, good job on no tears!!! I know how hard that is. And ML, and being close are good things, IMO. Lots of people here are jealous, including me.

Now comes the 2x4s! Just kidding, they're toothpicks, really. \:\) I think you're missing the positive signs for wanting everything NOW--In your first thread 2 months ago you posted this:

"H didn't love me anymore, never would again, was not attracted to me, and wanted a divorce...all I've heard over and over in the last 5 weeks is that he is done, he knows he is done, and he wants to just move forward."

Above, you post this:

"he doesn't think I'm a bad person, he thinks I'm attractive, he thinks I'm a good mom, he has seen a LOT of changes, all positive etc...... but that he still isn't "feeling it" and he just doesn't think it's going to change"

I see a BIG difference between those two quotes: 1, that's he's attracted to you again, and 2, he's seen positive changes and 3, there is doubt vs. resolve on being "done".

One last thing. I think trying to convince him with your words, having R talks, is only going to keep him defending his position, further entrenching it, not the opposite, which is what I think you intend. Maybe concentrate on having pleasant conversations with him instead, and let THAT do your convincing for you.

But otherwise you ARE moving in a positive direction and seeing progress, you should be proud. Keep it up!

It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb

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