(((Chris))) I'm sorry. It's very hard. What I find the hardest is when our loved ones make decisions based on feelings. I tried telling my W once that the feelings would return when she took action. For example, if I stop doing little things for her like bringing her coffee in the morning, I start taking her for granted and my feelings of love for her diminish. Well, this is what would happen in the past when I could do these things etc. So, I told her that as long as she sits around waiting for the feelings to return, she is ensuring that they won't. You are on the money that it took time for things to go away and it will take time for things to renew. As long as he continues to take action, I'm thinking that the feelings will return.
It seems to me that it's only been a couple of weeks since he started behaving a little better toward you. Baby steps here. You have pushed a little, now, back away again. The other ladies here could probably advise better, but, the next time he initiates intimacy, it might MIGHT be wise to refrain or perhaps turn it into some cuddling. Please get some other feedback on that one because I know that for myself, the most vulnerable and open I ever am is when we ML. So, when I initiate and she refuses, it can really hurt some times.
