I also think we are each at different points in our journey through hell. While I think I am far from the end, the divorce is sadly a day(or so) away unless he suddenly wakes up and then that is a whole other can of worms. I haven't read what you wrote, but if you are upset about something you said just tell him that.
We are here to help each other. Even if something hits a nerve now and then, we know that everyone here has our best interests at heart.
Do what you need to make yourself feel better. What's a little gray...they make stuff to color that. no big deal. Do what you gotta do.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory