Not knowing how much influence your MIL has on your sit or on your W. I can not comment, but will not rule it out. Aside from influence from your MIL you W may be using it as leverage or control. As long as she has the D card in her hand and you do not want the D then she has control over you in her own way.
I am sure you have heard this before, but if not take it to heart. In our situations, do not believe anything they say and only believe half of what they do. In other words. Their actions do speak louder then words, but even their action can have a hidden agenda. So if she is insisting that she wants the D but has not filed for it, then that sounds like a bluff. Especially if she is talking counseling etc.
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
