I think when he actually moves out I will be able to move to a new level of detachment.
I remember the day I moved out. October 2000. I fell back on my bed and let out a huge sigh of relief. The tension that I had endured for 3 months was over. It did help to detach a bit, but that came and went. What it did was to keep things out of my face 24/7 and that was much needed relief.
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But I would need to see him looking within himself and working on what's inside him before there could be any working on us
This is so true of any of us. The DB book tells use we have to break destructive habits if we are to save the relationship.
peace,
That quote is great. So many of us chose only to feel the pain. and thus were not able to let it go.
