What you did worked for YOU it does not mean that in belongs in the book of the only right thing to do.
To be honest, what worked for me was exactly what worked for every single person I spoke and had gone through what I had gone through or other difficult circumstances, man or woman. And the right thing to do is different for every person but the process of doing it was the same. And the process was not confined to the difficulties that all of us here have encountered but it was a global thing that would work in any situation. While I can't give you the names of the people with whom I conversed, I can certainly give you a number of book titles in which I learned the process, the first being Divorce Busting.
