Well I hit the one year mark this week, on being divorced. It has also been about one year since I have posted anything on the forum. I guess I am tired of being in a stall/holding pattern and want my life to move forward instead of sideways, so here I am.
Here is a brief view on what my relationship is with my XW. We have joint custody of our son, but he lives with me 80% of the time. I own my own business and my son spends his days with me. My wife works a 8-5 job M-F. Most days she comes over after work and we watch a movie or t.v. and have dinner. On most weekends (when she has custody) we spend at least one of the 2 days together. We get along really good and I enjoy her company and I believe she enjoys mine. But, I believe I enjoy her's, because I want things to work out between us and I still love her and find her attractive. I fell however, that on her side she just enjoys the company and the food. There is no chemistry between us, we are just like ol' friends hanging out.
So here is my quandary. I need to either start looking for a intimate companion or find a way to rekindle the spark between us. But, her lies the challenge. I am not quite sure how do approach either of these two options. On the dating side, I do not have many friends, so hanging out at the bar is not really an option, at least not without looking like a lonely looser. Plus I don't really want a bar type gal. Also, I am not religious and do not attend church, so I can't really use that avenue. Not that I want a religious type either. So, I am not sure how to go about finding someone to date. Any thoughts?
As far as rekindling things with my wife. I see that there is still a good chance there. She is not totally over me, does not hate me nor despise me. If she did she would not be hanging around me on almost a daily basis. I just need to re-build that attraction that she once had for me. But, how do I accomplish this? She is not interested in dating me. She rarely will do anything with me unless or son is going also. I have got to find a way to rebuild that attraction that we once had. Any thoughts?
“Do you want to be RIGHT or want to be LOVED” “You have to have a life to share a life with someone” “When you stop resisting, you start learning”
