Do you think that he has really worries or guilt about you drinking and if so that could be a 180 for you?
If I drink with other people, then he's completely fine with it. I think he has guilt about me drinking only when I am by myself, upset about something. He told me in the last four months point blank that it reminds him of his mother, he feels like he is putting me through the same pain that his D put his M through, and he wants to end our M now, before there is even more time lost and damage done. He's "saving me," like I guess he couldn't save her, and is quite exasperated and angry that I'm still in pain, despite his ah, efforts.
The ironic thing? He drinks far more than I do, and often enough by himself.
Originally Posted By: JWS
What did he mean about “dealt with loss before”
I think he meant he dealt with his dad pretty much abandoning them, losing all his friends, moving, and losing all their money when he was 7.
BTW, I just wanted to add that as bleak as I make things sound, H and I always had a LOT of fun together, both inside and outside the bedroom. Despite the dissatisfaction of an non-ending that our ML often had, H is a great lover, and we are very attracted to each other, to this day. My attraction for him has never waned once, I've never been "bored" with him.
Not sure why, but I felt I need to let you all know that!
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
