I agree with stubborn about playing hardball, but for a different reason. Everything he said about who is the best choice for the primary custodian is correct. Your wife is making bad choices and you have to protect the kids. But I suggest doing it for that reason only...not in anticipation that it will have an effect on her. Would you trust her even if it did...scaring her into staying with you? Maybe I'm too picky, but if I would still insist that my wife return to ME because she wanted to be with ME, and not for fear of financial woes, losing the kids, or being homeless...whatever.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer
