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[AliSuddenly]

Wow Nature Girl - you sound just like me. Same thing, I appreciate he has depression (and is possible MLC since his Dad died) but I also take responsibility for being on auto pilot, running things financially, driving the R, but I also let him have free reign and wasnt clingy. He also dropped it on me and I didnt see it coming.

Purr - you have been really kind and giving in your posts to me too, which show just what a lovely bloke you are. I guess you are wondering if all of this fits your sitch as you probably dont feel that your W is depressed... but there are certainly issues around her aging and losing her attractiveness (and power) as a woman, she did alot of weeping, she wasnt making sense (that whole thing about you being in the top 95% of men), so shes not skipping through rainbows really is she, as I like to say.

I know you have terrible trouble reconciling that she threw you over for a potential new man, that must be upsetting. But, she may have a fantasy in her head that she wants to be free to date hot younger men, or whatever, but the reality is, shes now 46 and decent men are thinner on the ground. She may well wake up and realise what a fool she has been, when she realises this. Its one of those things thats so hard to accept - thats about her trying to fill a gap in her, fulfil something because she is panicking about aging. Its kind of like having plastic surgery to stave off the aging process, instead of tackling the root of the problem - coming to terms with aging and accepting it gracefully and knowing that there is more to a person than their attractiveness. Your W must feel hollow or desperate to have left you for this reason, in my opinion and it is in no way your fault. It sounds to me like you were the perfect partner for her in many ways, yet she is determined to go off on some quest to recapture her youth to make herself feel better. She needs T !

Ok, maybe I am ranting. But all of this makes me cross!

Thinking of you
Ali xxx