H had 3 year affair and I never knew!

[happycamper]

Thanks for checking in, iamlost.

I can't get over the way that things just don't go as you expected. H (or stbx?!) in full flow of R with GF, it's very weird. They text each other all the time, he does it when he is here. Last night she sent him a photo of, ahem, herself. He does check in with me regularly to see if I am ok with things, but what choice do I have really? He hasn't found anywhere to go, we are 'separated', he's 'free' to see someone else, if I asked him to he would go outside to text her. I only have to show the slightest interest (which I do sometimes for the sake of our R) and off he goes... details details details every last detail about them.

And finally, he has got in contact with Sex and Love Addicts Anon (SLAA), and has recognised he has a significant problem. He's thinking about working on that, going to meetings etc. He talks about GF as something that probably 'won't last', MLC thing.

The question is, for me, that if he changes his ways, will he want to try again? Do I want to try again? Very confusing.