I think my H became depressed and he hid it, probably from himself too, but the depression causes him to feel not quite right, something is missing. I believe it is probably worse when everything in their life "should be" so wonderful (great and successful job/career, great healthy well adjusted kids, no money worries, beautiful wife (my H's words) who is not clingy at all and gives a lot of free reign, etc., etc.) and yet they still feel this emptiness, hopelessness, a hole in their life. So he thinks, if it isn't the job causing my feelings, or the kids, and it couldn't possibly be that I am depressed or have anything remotely wrong with me because I've always been strong and stable (compared to the rest of my family) -- it must be my marriage! But yet on some level, they know it is not the M, they just don't want to face it because that means they have to face themselves and admit that there must be some work they have to do on themselves.
(((Purr)))) I totally agree with this- I think the element of depression causes them to pin their feelings on the person/thing closest to them- usually their spouse. Deep down, though, they can't face knowing that this isn't the right thing to do and they become internally confused acting one way and then another. I think your W is doing that- she's certainly sending mixed signals to you....
How was the weekend away Purr? I hope you had a good time. And thank you for being so lovely to me on my thread. I always knew you were a charmer, but my goodness!!
