Dance Queen, Well, chances are that if I give her the ultimatum right now...she will probably accept it and the marriage will end. I feel she is at that point of not caring how I feel about things right now.
At the time I asked her to read the SSM book, I made myself very clear as to how I felt in our marriage. I took into consideration the things she was asking from me. I eased WAY back on the physical touch. She wanted more space and free time to spend with friends...fine, done. She said I was not trusting of her due to what happened in my first marriage and that she took my phone calls to her during the day as a way to check up on her...fine, done. I haven't initiated a call to her in 6 or 7 months. I did everything she asked. I made myself clear about how I felt and said the book would outline and explain the hurt even more. 1 1/2 chapters and now collecting dust.
If not for the girls, I would already be gone and she knows that. She knows I can't bare the thought of hurting them.
No, I'm not a Bible thumper but I do have some moral values otherwise I probably would have sought out an affair by now just to try and find some type of affection.
