I'm thinking it is just to mess with you, also. Especially if he hasn't touched it in a while. Maybe you should get Geraldo Rivera to come by to open it on National TV?!
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Good one, g. I don't know if I think he's doing it to "mess" with me. Maybe it's perfectly innocent. I'll find out soon enough.
I don't harbor any feelings of animosity towards my h right now. I mostly feel sadness that I lost a really great friend. We used to get along so well and have so much fun together. Even if we were just watching a movie at home on a Sunday afternoon. We used to share so many laughs. Now all of that is history. Part of me would have preferred being single and "just friends" with him than ever getting married. On the flip side, I've learned so much about myself through this experience that I wouldn't want to change anything.
Why do I feel so much disgust and dislike for OW? I can't stand the sight of her, the sound of her voice or footsteps, the thought of her... I have no respect for her and no love for her anymore. Why am I so lenient with my h, but so hardcore with her?
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
Why do I feel so much disgust and dislike for OW? I can't stand the sight of her, the sound of her voice or footsteps, the thought of her... I have no respect for her and no love for her anymore. Why am I so lenient with my h, but so hardcore with her?
Because she was supposed to be your "friend." It not bad enough that this has happened, but with someone you thought you could trust just drives the dagger that much deeper.
(((hugs))).
I nearly choked on my Diet Pepsi, Geraldo...gforce you are too funny!
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
"Why do I feel so much disgust and dislike for OW? "
My take on it? It's easier to be mad at her than at your spouse. It's easier to blame her.
It's always harder to find fault with someone you love.
The best thing to do... according to the crystal ball.. is go do something physical. Getting stuck in negative emotion hurts you more than anything else.
I'll agree with Gyspsy on that... Gosh in the beginning I wanted to go to her office and make a scene in front of her bosses. I even threatened I would. I sent her TMs asking her some polite questions and ending those with "Thanks you" just to intimidate her, make her think I am crazy enough (I am, but that's our secret...).
I had some good RL friends around who kept pointing me to the right direction. My brother told me this "nobody hits on me and I see many women clients everyday (and he is HOT), you know why? Because I don't have the "available" light on, your H had it on, if it wasn't her, it would have been someone else" He is right you know... K
I wish I could do something physical right now... I did take my office dog for a quick walk, but I'm wearing my platform peep toes and they aren't the best walking shoes.
The thing about OW is I USED to love her. I used to think the world of her. She was a witness at our wedding. Her signature is on the marriage certificate. She stood next to me and held my flower bouquet so my husband could slip the ring on. I really, really loved her as a person and held her in the highest esteem. But she never promised to love me forever, she never vowed to forsake all others... so why am I not as mad and full of disgust at my husband?
Thanks for the hugs, wisdom and laughter. Kalni your comment about "crazy" was adorable. I really love your fire.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
