FW - thank you. I know that you don't have all the answers, and asking for permission to write something, was really only my way of asking if and how I should approach the subject of my kids meeting the OW. I agree that it should wait for another time.
I in no way think that you have all of the answers. I am asking for your opinion because you have been there and have some insight into what is on the MLC'ers mind. I know there is no way you can know what my H is thinking. I needed help with this letter, to cut out the emotion, the accusatory tone and any sense of being argumentative. I think that you and BFM have helped immensely.
I do think that writing this letter is right for me. I need him to know that I know about OW. I know that I can't predict what my H's reaction will be. I know there is no way to know how this will hit him. I anticipate that it will make him very angry, but there is no way I can think of a future with him some day if this is not out in the open.
I thank you both for your help and insight. Whatever happens at this point is on me-----I will not hold anyone accountable for the end result.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
