I need help... I am having a very hard time this morning,it seems every monday I get like this,I had a long talk with god this morning and it was not a nice one... I am so scared to even ask for forgiveness after this morning.I hear he speaks to his people but he is not speaking to me or showing me that he is even listening or working on my behalf... how can a husband who has been a good daddy and husband just up and leave his family....where is all the love for your children that he proclaims to have.. please please I need some words of wisdom
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
As you have probably read on many threads, when they enter into MLC, their beliefs, way of life, everything totally changes. Many times they are the opposite of what they once were.
As for your prayers--you have to be consistent and patient. God does not reveal all to us when we would like Him to. Remember, everything is in His timing, not ours.
If you keep praying and feel that you do not see results, then you must continue to have faith and keep praying.
God does listen to prayer and He does work but we don't always see it.
Be patient, forgiving, love unconditionally and from afar, and be still. Another major thing is to zip the lips. You might feel like questioning your husband and talking about what he is doing as wrong but don't do it as it will only push him further away from you and more toward ow.
This is a very long road and you will have ups and downs.
Do a lot of reading here on these forums as it will help you.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
When they talk about the roller coaster ride is this what we are feeling... one day is good another.... is nothing but crying etc.etc.etc you said that when we dont hear from them that they are thinking also you told me the other day that this came from your husband's mouth that he did think about you and the kids all the time is this true you think???
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
the roller coaster ride that is referred to here is about them, not us.
yes, it is true what my H said--that there is not a day that goes by that he did not think about us. he told me this over a year ago.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I feel so homored when you answer my posts you seem like such a godly woman in here. I know you visit Rejoice Ministries... and they have been a blessing but sometimes this is so hard.. and yet you seem to be doing so good on your faith and I do have faith but this morning I lashed out at God for not hurrying up and now I feel so far from him.. I have asked for forgiveness but I still feel so ashamed.. steelers, how can i get in contact with some of the people in here even for just email.. I go to different websites and they are so bitter and do not speak very nice sometimes I have a church I go to but it seems sometimes that they are thinking i should just let go and move on.. zi dont want to move on ..I want my husband back.. I just wish i could email some of you guys just to vent on a more personal basis with people who have been there or are there.
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
You just have to pick yourself up off the floor and get in that prayer closet.
Everyone has setbacks.
You will be fine. Tomorrow is a new day--look forward to it. I pray 3-4 times a day. Sometimes I don't feel like it but I force myself and I eventually pick myself up off the floor, too.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
geez... kinda late on your request but I just saw this I am 53 my husband is 47 I am feeling really low today... missing my old married life I know that that marriage is dead and new one is coming but i still miss him sooo much. my faith in God is strong but they are times when it is just so hard to have faith .. we went to a miracle of prayers last night here in dallas and it was a blessing the Lord's presence was there.... we could all feel it, even my 13D was crying and raising her hands up to the lord I asked for a miracle of marriage restoration.Theu preached about the woman in the bible that had bleed for 12yrs, and she had so much faith that all she did was touch the cloak of Jesus garment and she was immediately healed... I guess what they were trying to say is the the preacher was not there as a healer but because we as believers... our faith would make our miracle happen. It was awesome.... It must be so frustrating for you when your husband says all these things to you about his love for you but yet he is still gone to the far country... I gues this is when our faith has to remaing stong but that is very hard sometimes to do.... Just keep me in your prayers..be Blessed in Jesus Name
M-53 H-46 M-24+YRS BOMB-10/14/07 2-S 2-D Grandkids-7 Greatgrand kid-1 He needs space... Wants to start fresh new life W O/W Moved in his O/W Oct.08
"It must be so frustrating for you when your husband says all these things to you about his love for you but yet he is still gone to the far country... "
Actually, it has been wonderful. H is not so much in the "far country" any longer. He is more rational then he has been in awhile and things have been great. He might not be living at home but his heart is still here.
I really do not find it difficult. What was difficult is when we did not have an R like we do now. We had a great marriage and then when all of this happened, things seemed to be distant for a few years.
I would not trade this progress for anything.
He will be home--soon.
Last edited by steelersfan; 07/28/0807:46 PM.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
