i have been concentrating on myself.. and i think i am doing well..
Sawks, she's just testing the waters a little bit. Remember, in the WAW's mind, you're not married any more. What you did was so horrible, she's free to do whatever.
Do you really think she'll find someone better than you? No. But she might need to try for a little bit. Glad to hear she's stressed out so much. That's good.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
I think her enjoying the time she spends with you, but still being determined to date makes her very confused. Although she may think she is done with the M, emotionally I don't think she is. She is just masking the past because she doesn't know how to move forward with you - whether because she is uncertain she can or for other reasons.
This BB is a great place to vent. We always try and listen.
She is being a considerate roommate and friend. Those are positives. Don't get any expectations from that, but focus on the positives!
Don't worry about the date. She is obviously trying to find someone for a rebound R (even if unconsciously) but I somehow doubt anyone can shine a candle to you!
Well i think she might be confused .. she came home and we watched a movie.. i said thanks and went to bed. I saw how she looked over a few times. She has no idea that I know..i plan on keeping it that way.
How could someone move into a new R anyways? this one is still staring her in the face.
You are right, i did some things in our M i shouldn't have, but i am not that person anymore and i work on it daily..
She is being considerate, the only time she gets mad is if something from the past comes up..
But making my lunches for the week.. and so on, roomates don't usually do that..
i have been concentrating on myself.. and i think i am doing well..
Sawks, she's just testing the waters a little bit. Remember, in the WAW's mind, you're not married any more. What you did was so horrible, she's free to do whatever.
Do you really think she'll find someone better than you? No. But she might need to try for a little bit. Glad to hear she's stressed out so much. That's good.
Testing the waters for what? catfish? and yes i know in her mind we aren't married anymore. she is free to do whatever.
I mentioned this week will likely be a busy one for me.. who will let the dogs out.. she said" for a year and a half, they had long wed's and thurs'" they'll be fine, referring to when i worked 4 days a week out of town.
No she won't find anyone better, but with all the drama she has shown her friends, do you think she'd change her mind without losing face ?
And yes she has been very stressed, breaking out, she has exzema.. that's good i assume because she;s thinking about us? Or could it be she just wants it all to go away and that stresses her.
so i am debating sending this (it's not quite done) .. maybe someone can shed some light on whether this should wait or not?
W,
I respectfully and sincerely apologize for hurting you in anyway, shape or form. My intent was not to hurt you, ever. How I went from being the guy I was when we met, to the guy i turned into, i am not sure. Alot of withheld emotion is what i think, i was always the type to hold all emotions in until the boiling point. When my dad died, i held it all in, and never really got in touch with those feelings until i was in my 20's (dad died when i was 10).In the past 2 months, I have gone and revealed myself to people like never before. The anger has gone away. How could I possibly be angry when i have such a great wife, dogs, cats, family, job and friends(save a few). Life is way too short to be angry. I have been dishonest with you and taken advantage of you, that was selfish, and i understand why you are angry, and I don't blame you for being angry for even a moment.
You were my heart and soul for 4 years, my everything. I enjoyed travelling with you, living with you, loving you.
I am working on bettering myself , i have "me" until the end of time, and if i am not happy with myself, i will never be truly happy. Going to the gym and doing yoga is something i should have started long ago, it completely takes all the stress out of my day and translates into positive energy.I have gotten out any dis-honesty from my past , nothing but the truth from now on. I don't know why i ever tried to impress anyone , I am fine just the way I am.
We were great friends & had alot of hopes and dreams together.
It's good, but can be tweaked some. Don't send it yet. I'll try to look at it more tonight. Meanwhile, I'm sure others have suggestions.
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Hey Sawks, I agree but let me look at it more when I get home from work. It's a good letter, but it can be tweaked.
Rule of thumb...never send anything unless you sleep on it first.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Yep, maybe she'll catch one! OM in my sitch was a real nutcase, and that helped a lot
Originally Posted By: redsawks44
No she won't find anyone better, but with all the drama she has shown her friends, do you think she'd change her mind without losing face?
Yes, she will, but it will be painful. It's just a matter of making it easy for her to come back. And if my W is any indication, they're willing to endure a lot of pain before coming back.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
I have to second that one. I think one of the reasons my H stopped calling this week, other than the typical end of the month jargon, is because he sees how well I am doing and feels guilty that he refused to stick it out.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
