To answer your question from before. How can we raise our game? Let's have a competition....like that Seindfeld episode. Who is master of their domain?
Be honest and keep track. First one to backslide loses.
Up for it?
Me: 30 W: 27 Married: 9/2007 ILUBNILWU: 1/2008 W moved out 5/24/2008 W suicide 8/25/2009
If we counted today....wow...I lost the big fat one. I can only imagine what she will think when she sees that I emailed her twice.
Found out something else that is making my head spin. She still wants me to pick up the wedding album. I'm so trying not to read into that, because I fear it's only for the reason that we spent the money....but....why would you want it????
Me: 30 W: 27 Married: 9/2007 ILUBNILWU: 1/2008 W moved out 5/24/2008 W suicide 8/25/2009
Hey Neil Just wanted to stop in and say hi. Seems like I haven't been on the site as much the last few days as I have been going through a real up and down thing.
Started out kind of down today, but it's coming around. This will be a GAL week if it kills me.
Sounds like you are doing pretty good. Even when you seem to be having a bad day, your posts have an air of positive to them. Do you realize that.
Some times I will write something and end up trashing it because it sounds so GD negative. I end up not saying anything or just getting off the site and stewing.
Oh...Seinfeld....holy crap. Used to work with this guy. Every day he could find some incident that reminded him of an episode, and he knew every one like he had them recorded in his brain some where.
so maybe we should start tommorrow...LOl...i asked W if she wanted to do dinner with the kids....at first she said yes, but then changed her mind and said she just would like some QT with them since she hadn't had just "mommy" time in quite awhile. I didn't have a problem with that, because i understand the importance of QT....
i did text her and said if she wanted them earlier she could come get them....no response.
I don't know if that's bad or not...so, you email, i text. LOL....
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
Sounds like you are doing pretty good. Even when you seem to be having a bad day, your posts have an air of positive to them. Do you realize that.
really? thanks...i appreciate that....
Originally Posted By: ndsmhelp
I end up not saying anything or just getting off the site and stewing.
dude...you gotta get it off your chest...as ridculous as you might sound, or as irrational as it might come across....you need to do those things...you just gotta....or else you sit and stew like you said. What does that do for you? Make you even more mad....ya know?
ME:32 WAW:31 D #1: 3.5 D #2: 2 Together: 13 M:6 Bomb Dropped: 2/15/08 Sep legally: 6/18/08
"Tommorrow there'll be sunshine, and all this darkness past..." -Bruce Springsteen Land of Hope and Dreams
let's be honest.....WE will backslide....i think it should depend on how badly (ie...you today..or me yesterday...LOL) and how we recover from it....
: )
Yes you will.
A controlled backslide is a nice thing. Knowing you are going to backslide and have a plan of what you are going to say, be logical rather than emotional.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
so maybe we should start tommorrow...LOl...i asked W if she wanted to do dinner with the kids....at first she said yes, but then changed her mind and said she just would like some QT with them since she hadn't had just "mommy" time in quite awhile. I didn't have a problem with that, because i understand the importance of QT....
i did text her and said if she wanted them earlier she could come get them....no response.
I don't know if that's bad or not...so, you email, i text. LOL....
Yup....three of kind here guys.
My goal today was no contact initiated by me.
I just texted her to see if she heard from D, who went to Manhattan today with friends. D didn't answer so I tried the wife.
Should have, could have, would have waited for D to get back to me...but didn't.
So maybe I will break it down to hours now. No text to wife for the next 3.5 hours, until I get out of work.
Then the ride home....is she there? is she out with the girls again? not home? where the F is she again tonight?
I suck....LOL. I hope we're not playing for money.
dude...you gotta get it off your chest...as ridculous as you might sound, or as irrational as it might come across....you need to do those things...you just gotta....or else you sit and stew like you said. What does that do for you? Make you even more mad....ya know?
I know, I know....also need to find someone to talk to face to face. FG has been telling me from the beginning, and I'm still balking.
The other night I talked to my brother about things, and you know, in four months that was the first time I opened up to anyone other the people on here. It felt good.
