Mulesqb - Still alive and Kickin'

[mulesqb]

Hey guys just wanted to update - been doing a lot of reading here the last few days and not much posting. Bill's last post really hit home with me about looking at positives. That REALLY helped me this weekend.

To update - the neighbors are getting divorced. They had a major blowout this weekend and are ending it. I have mixed emotions. On one hand it will be a good thing. It can be a really good thing. The neighbor's W spent yesterday looking for a new place to live. On the other - my W was spending a lot of time with the H. Always with me, but quite honestly I thought she was overdoing it. He also has got her to be totally on his side and against his W. I told her that I would not pick sides - etc...

Thanks to Bill I really focused on the non-negatives this weekend. I took the boys to the movies - they begged my W to come and she wouldn't - they all said that they would even see whatever she wanted and she declined. So I took them anyway. She told me to call her when we were done and that she would meet us for dessert. We called her at 10:30pm when we got out and she wanted to meet with us - so we went to the diner. We were all thrilled.

I think there were a lot of non-negs this weekend. Her and I are getting along pretty well. She brought up that she watches TV downstairs because she likes to lay on the couch and not in the theater chairs. She asked me about moving the couch back upstairs - so that's got to be a positive - at least I think it is.

Anyway - I don't want to go on too long. She again this morning got mad at S14 and screamed saying the kids are her only problem and that's why she doesn't want to be there. I asked her firmly not to say that in front of them as it is very hurtful to them. She caught herself and stopped. She also made it a point to tell me that she wasn't yelling at me - that she was just frustrated - I told her that was ok - I was just there to listen regardless.

Update - My neighbor just called me to tell me he is going to try and get his W to go to MC (I had suggested that the other night). So they might not be done just yet.