Hey Brian, overall pretty good. I am going to say this, I think it was okay to tell her you love her. You haven't said it in a very long time and you tested the water with it. Given the conversation and the fact that you basically told her you were still in it for saving your family, I feel it was more than appropriate....Now don't do it again for a bit.
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I am an open book I have nothing to hide
Barf... that's like throwing a right hook while your left hand is down at your waste. You knew she was gonna counter that...... Stop with all the bs about what you are and what you are doing. Remember, your actions define you not your words. You are standing very strong for your marriage, no defending is necessary dude.
Try and remember what you and I talked about the other day, compassion, understanding, focus on the positive direction. That's all you have to do.
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She said there is a song in the movie "broken bridges" that explains how she feels so I am going to listen to that might give me some more insight on her.
Might.... are you fricken kidding me... she just gave you a golden compass dude..... read the lyrics, figure out what she is saying to you.
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So I decided since I inititated the hug I took a bolder step and kissed her goodbye
So I felt like I was left hanging here???? Did she respond, kiss back, slap your face, what?????
Hey Brian, overall pretty good. I am going to say this, I think it was okay to tell her you love her. You haven't said it in a very long time and you tested the water with it. Given the conversation and the fact that you basically told her you were still in it for saving your family, I feel it was more than appropriate....Now don't do it again for a bit.
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I am an open book I have nothing to hide
Barf... that's like throwing a right hook while your left hand is down at your waste. You knew she was gonna counter that...... Stop with all the bs about what you are and what you are doing. Remember, your actions define you not your words. You are standing very strong for your marriage, no defending is necessary dude.
Try and remember what you and I talked about the other day, compassion, understanding, focus on the positive direction. That's all you have to do.
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She said there is a song in the movie "broken bridges" that explains how she feels so I am going to listen to that might give me some more insight on her.
Might.... are you fricken kidding me... she just gave you a golden compass dude..... read the lyrics, figure out what she is saying to you.
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So I decided since I inititated the hug I took a bolder step and kissed her goodbye
So I felt like I was left hanging here???? Did she respond, kiss back, slap your face, what?????
Ian
Ian...
Makes sense I didn't stop to think before saying it and now that I read it in quote, it was putting me out in front of her and countering her statement of nothing to hide from earlier.
Okay it 'will' give me insight, am trying to find the song so as to read the lyrics...
Sorry guess it was abit of a cliff hanger LOL. She didn't pull away she kissed me back and then just looked at me not in a bad more a surprised look I think or a look of WTF maybe...
Have you ever noticed that it seems people join here in cycles? Arthur and Mike came on around the same time, you and I did. I registered a week or so before you, but did not post for the first time until right before Mother's Day.
I am thinking you and I are in the same place with regards to our WAS, after reading your musings. I will stay the course until my H is home.
You have been doing a great job and the conversations and texting went well. Keep up the good work my friend.
SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
Okay it 'will' give me insight, am trying to find the song so as to read the lyrics...
Not sure which song it is, but that's definately the way to go... I remember telling my H about 2 years ago that he should listen to the song "buy me a rose" cause that's how i felt. He just laughed and said he wasn't going to listen to my country music... that's a shame...
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Sorry guess it was abit of a cliff hanger LOL. She didn't pull away she kissed me back and then just looked at me not in a bad more a surprised look I think or a look of WTF maybe...
at least you didn't get hit... hehe. I think you really shocked her with the ILY then a kiss. Neither one of them made her pull back, so that's awesome! I do agree with Ian though now to maybe wait a little bit before it happens again!!
ann
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
Have you ever noticed that it seems people join here in cycles? Arthur and Mike came on around the same time, you and I did. I registered a week or so before you, but did not post for the first time until right before Mother's Day.
I am thinking you and I are in the same place with regards to our WAS, after reading your musings. I will stay the course until my H is home.
You have been doing a great job and the conversations and texting went well. Keep up the good work my friend.
SMW
SMW...
Have noticed it also, I see more and more everyday there is a couple more new ones, it makes my heart heavy to see so much pain and anguish
I have kept up on your sitch and feel you are going in a good direction and kinda like Mike said on his post only 'you' know how long to stay in it, I would agree we are pretty much in step with each other and good on you for staying your course. Though there are days where I just say why, I find it in myself to go on.
We are both doing pretty good, you also keep up with the good work
Okay it 'will' give me insight, am trying to find the song so as to read the lyrics...
Not sure which song it is, but that's definately the way to go... I remember telling my H about 2 years ago that he should listen to the song "buy me a rose" cause that's how i felt. He just laughed and said he wasn't going to listen to my country music... that's a shame...
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Sorry guess it was abit of a cliff hanger LOL. She didn't pull away she kissed me back and then just looked at me not in a bad more a surprised look I think or a look of WTF maybe...
at least you didn't get hit... hehe. I think you really shocked her with the ILY then a kiss. Neither one of them made her pull back, so that's awesome! I do agree with Ian though now to maybe wait a little bit before it happens again!!
ann
ann...
I found the song and will post it here in a sec.
No I was thankful I didn't get hit hehe, but agree with both of you, I tested the waters it didn't seem to do any bad, but maybe got her to thinkin I am not going to do it again for awhile will just wait and see.
Okay so this is the song my W was talking about I am not sure as what to do. If this is truly the way she feels it makes my heart ache for her pain. Any thoughts on this guy's....
Wake up to a sunny day, not a cloud up in the sky Then it starts to rain, my defenses hit the ground And they shatter all around, so open and exposed I found strength in the struggle Face to face with my trouble
When you're broken in a million little pieces And you're trying but you can't hold on anymore Every tear falls down for a reason Don't you stop believing in yourself When you're broken
Little girl don't be so blue I know what you're going through Don't let it beat you up Hitting walls and getting scars Only makes you who you are Only makes you who you are No matter how much your heart is aching There is beauty in the breaking Yeah
When you're broken in a million little pieces And you're trying but you can't hold on anymore Every tear falls down for a reason Don't you stop believing in yourself When you're broken
Better days are gonna find you once again Every piece will find its place
When you're broken, when you're broken
When you're broken in a million little pieces And you're trying but you can't hold on anymore Every tear falls down for a reason Don't you stop believing in yourself When you're broken Oh, when you're broken When you're broken When you're broken
