The ileostomy was temporary luckily, he only had it for about 5/6 months. He knew that the stoma (ileostomy) wouldn't cure him. The operation to cut out the bits of diseased bowel did that, they put the stoma in so the bowel could rest and heal itself. The stoma definately had a big effect on both him as it was problematic and didn't heal properly meaning that the bags didn't fit properly and things - he was quite scared to go out in public. It really dented his pride and also after the reversal he couldn't touch the scars.
I think it is straight up denial, because there are things that he could be doing to help himself. Not drinking milk, having his vitamin injection, looking at his diet etc but it feels like he has just run away and I know from when we shared all our money he ate out every night. I don't know if he is still doing that but he has put on such a lot of weight. The thing is that if he has to have any more operations he would most probably have to have a permanent stoma which is why I don't understand why he isn't looking after himself or going for the check ups.
It doesn't seem to be about the illness anymore though, it has morphed into a battle against me it feels like. To be honest I haven't a clue what is going on inside his head as he will never say. I kind of feel a bit funny talking about it we kept what was going on so private I have never really said but it was such a hard time for both of us really but especially for him.
Do you ever talk about health problems with your h anymore?
