Hey Brian, overall pretty good. I am going to say this, I think it was okay to tell her you love her. You haven't said it in a very long time and you tested the water with it. Given the conversation and the fact that you basically told her you were still in it for saving your family, I feel it was more than appropriate....Now don't do it again for a bit.


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I am an open book I have nothing to hide


Barf... that's like throwing a right hook while your left hand is down at your waste. You knew she was gonna counter that...... Stop with all the bs about what you are and what you are doing. Remember, your actions define you not your words. You are standing very strong for your marriage, no defending is necessary dude.

Try and remember what you and I talked about the other day, compassion, understanding, focus on the positive direction. That's all you have to do.


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She said there is a song in the movie "broken bridges" that explains how she feels so I am going to listen to that might give me some more insight on her.


Might.... are you fricken kidding me... she just gave you a golden compass dude..... read the lyrics, figure out what she is saying to you.


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So I decided since I inititated the hug I took a bolder step and kissed her goodbye


So I felt like I was left hanging here???? Did she respond, kiss back, slap your face, what?????


Ian


M- 48
XW- mentally 17
KIDS- 3- S19, D23, D28
Married- 17 years
Divorce final- 10/16/09