Right...I get all you say, yet every bone in my body still aches at the thought of detaching in such a way. I'd feel like a doormat in a way..but that is personal.
I'm sure you are right, but maybe you didn't love your wife with as much passion as I love my H. I don't know...no 2 loves are the same.
I live the moment, and yes I do discuss possibilities now and again, I see no harm in wondering about that.
I know you feel my H has made a decision and may stick to it. Yes he may. He thought the same when he married me. It didn't happen. For now he is with ow. No one knows what the future brings. I like it that way, it leaves numerous possibilities open.
For now I 'decide' to just live and enjoy my life and kids and friends and family. Something I have been doing for a while. I have not set any boundaries on H except about the kids being on the internet. We have only discussed what would happen if I were at the same place as ow. Oh yes, I have set a boundary...I do not want her on my property. This is my safe haven. I do not go and visit her at home either or park in front of her house ....
Urgh, getting angry at this, because I am made to think about it. I don't want to think about this, it's not WORTH it !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
