losing sunshine but gaining happiness either way

[stubborn]

and I just read this from Puppy on another thread and I think it pertains to you:

My experience has been that people in affairs will usually cop to about one level or so LESS than what they're really doing. Thus:

"We're just friends" = EA

"It's an EA, but we haven't been physical" = PA

"We've had sex, but not intercourse" = "We've had intercourse, but only once, and I told him 'that can't happen again until I am free from my husband', and we're trying to 'cool it' righit now" (this almost never works)

That's just my opinion/experience. It really doesn't matter anyway, since even an inappropriate emotional commitment (EA), especially for a woman, is in many ways even more entangled and destructive than a short-term PA would be to the marriage.

Puppy

Damn, he's good.
Stub