He obviously available or else he would have never started the affair.
Look. I know how easy it is to blame the OP. We all do it. It doesn't change anything. It keeps our anger going. Don't you want it to stop? But I am trying to give you something to shoot for. You lives can be better than they ever were. I know this. I and many of my friends are living proof. As time goes on, you will look back and see signs that you never noticed before.
The sooner you get past the hurt and anger, the sooner you will truly move forward. And that is a plus for you. And if there is even the slightest chance that you marriage will be saved getting over that hurt and anger will get you there sooner.
