root when i told her paper with $X wasn't set in stone, she threatened to file a complaint with domestics. what do you say there ?
Just tell her you need receipts for your legal records. Tell her this is to help protect her as well (make everything sound like you are doing her a favor). This is important even if you have a just have a "mediator." Suppose things escalate and she wants something very unreasonable. You need to be prepared either way and having receipts is a necessity.
What is a complaint with "dometics?" Unless there is a legal order with a specific amount of money, and something legally telling you to pay it, you don't need to give her anything. As a courtesy, and to "be nice," you can give her a reasonable amount of money to help with some bills and things for the child. Never pay more than what's necessary.
As far as a reply to any threats just tell her you don't have any extra money and are doing the best you can. I personally think the less money you squeeze out to her the better. Don't make her too financially comfortable with this situation. But talk nice even with the threats... just say you are sorry, but you just don't have the extra money (even if you do). Plead poverty and be sorry about that. Don't tell her it's because of her wanting this D. Never never never blame her or point out the obvious like some annoying parent figure. She'll figure it out on her own and that's much more effective then the preachy (using my nasal voice here) "I told you so."
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
What's this about your inlaws? Aren't they in contact with their daughter? I'd be careful with what I said to my in-laws. Even if they adore you, their daughter will ultimately come first.
Also, if your wife is aware of this relationship you have with them (how could she not be?) she's probably furious and resenting you even more for that. If I were wanting to D my H, and he was trying to get my family over to "his side," that would make me dislike or hate him even more, and want him out of my life as quickly as possible.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
woops didn't know I double posted. that's what you get for posting from an iPhone anyways, just want to vent for a sec. W picked up S from my house and had a letter/invitation addressed to OM "and guest" sticking out of her purse. how convenient
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
W is telling people ever since she left me she has so many friends which is odd because I never stopped her from having friends or going out. This is so frustrating sometimes. I am supposed to GAL and forget about her and all this crap while she goes out and has a good time with OM, possibly moves out of our house and might not ever come back. Then again why would I want a cheater back ? Yeah it's only been 6 weeks but no is telling her that an affair is wrong. Well they have but she tells them she doesn't want to hear it. Meanwhile I doubt he parents are going to say jack to her. Her mom has been divorced once already which doesn't help. God is watching though. I just wonder at times how to GAL and DB at the same time
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
anyways, just want to vent for a sec. W picked up S from my house and had a letter/invitation addressed to OM "and guest" sticking out of her purse. how convenient