But the sporting activity would not be by accident as H plans to tell me if she's coming...therefore it takes the element of surprise out, right ?!
Cinders, it is a public place, therefore your H can take her there.
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So, if she's guilty of anything it's of not having had any respect for 'a marriage'.
So what. Happens every day.
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The little evil voice in me, can only hope that one day she will hurt as much as I have, when another ow walks into their lives...yet I know that it will not take away the pain that I have had.
I understand that. I know OM would have been hurt if he ran into me at a certain point int time. But like you said it wouldn't change anything for you. And what makes you think another OW will walk in. But this is not a good train of thought for you or anyone else and the sooner you decide (yes, you decide) to stop thinking like this, the better off you will be. See Cinders nothing I have been trying to say to you has anything to do with anyone but you. It is a good goal for any of us to become detached from a situation which pains us.
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My H is the type of person who would love nothing more than for me and ow to become great friends and pals so that he can spend more time over here, WITH her. I do not want such a life. It's something I have no interest in.
You do not have to be friends. But when the occasion arises that you are in the same place at the same time, you should be cordial. See when there are situations where we are in the same place at the same time, no one can ever think poorly of me.
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I think I will just see how life unveils itself to me, and not worry about all the 'what if's'
That is exactly what I am saying to you. Don't worry about the what ifs, because that is exactly what you are doing.
