The Wifey - trying hard not to cry.

[KenF]

Kelly Jo,
just checking in on you. keep up the good work.

Detaching is tough work, but for me I've started exercising. Its been something i've been putting off and spent a couple hours rollerblading saturday and sunday, put a smile on my face and cleared my head. Find something outside if possible, working on your tan lines is great. the sun has a great cleansing feeling.

just always keep in mind, all of us here are pulling for you. whether we post or lurk, we want the absolute best for you.

[ndsmhelp]

Hey now, I think I'm being stalked by lurkers. I have over 200 views but only about 50 posts. What gives. Do the rest of you think you have nothing to add that would help me?

Hey Kelly Jo
I'm guilty...stalker here. Check in on you all the time to see how you are doing because you seem to be having the same problem as me with letting go a little.

Just been down myself and not posting much, and never feel comfortable giving advice. Guess I should pop on threads more often just to say hi and offer support. Maybe it would make me feel a little better.

The changes you make.. need to have a mindset of making both "people" happy. I mean the goal is to make the R better. So within the setting of DB.com.. you need to understand.. and I think you do.. something that works for you.. may not be so clear to the other person. The other person may.. see it as more of the same with cherries on top. The idea is to pull yourself out.. and in doing so they run along behind you. Someone used a dancing analogy once.. you can ask for someone to dance.. and leave the option for them to say yes or no.. or you can say nothing and hold your hand out.. and leave the option for them to say yes or no. You don't need to understand.. why they said yes or no.

Found this, this morning. Forrest posted it on Bridgestones thread.

For some reason it struck me and made me look at things a bit differently this morning. Thought about myself, and then you and your thread.

NDS

[The Wifey]

Thanks, NDS. I am working to find the happy. LOL I am happiest in his arms. Now I have to work on the happy outside of arms. Sometimes I find it, sometimes not. Right now I'm going to eat something and leave room for desert!

[ndsmhelp]

Thanks, NDS. I am working to find the happy. LOL I am happiest in his arms. Now I have to work on the happy outside of arms. Sometimes I find it, sometimes not. Right now I'm going to eat something and leave room for desert!

I know what you mean. Sometimes I think that if she knew how truly happy and content I felt when we were holding each other, that it would make all the difference.

Then...that is not DBing or GAL is it now.

I am starving and can't get out for lunch...grumbling belly is disturbing my customers.

NDS

[Virtually_Handsome]

((((((Kelly Jo))))))

It's good to hear you sounding better! I think taking steps to make your new room "yours" will make things more real to your H. That might be a good thing. If one was to get a facebook account and search for kalni sunshine they might find a bunch of dbers hanging out there. Definitely get the posters down and maybe put up some new curtain, that would make a big difference by itself!

[The Wifey]

Thanks, Jeff. I am going to stop and look at curtains on the way home! I have C at 7, so I have time to do so before my appointment. I actually just searched for you because I didn't know where you were and then found you'd just posted to me. Strange on the timing.

I do have a facebook account, I'll have to search. Thanks!

[Continuing]

I wanted to thank you for your encouraging words this morning, they really ment a lot to me.

I'm sorta emotionally drained at the moment but I'm stull reading along with you sitch.

Thank you again,
B

[The Wifey]

Continuing, I understand the drained feeling. I've had times when I've hurt so bad that I kind of go numb. For now I'm good, but I can't predict how long that will last. We'll help each other out, ok?

Let me know if you need me and I'll be there.

[Virtually_Handsome]

((((((Kelly Jo))))))

You know, I'm seeing that you are a lot stronger than you think you are! Through all of your pain you really do reach out to others, and try to help them. That's special. It says a lot about you, and it is a good thing!

[The Wifey]

Jeff, One of the things that makes me happy is to reach out and help people. Unfortunately, its something that bugged my h because I always want to help other people and then lost focus at home. I guess it has to have some balance to it. I guess I also find that it helps with the pain to help someone else.

If only I could get a response from poor Lost Phil. He seems to be going out of his way to ignore me. : ) I guess I'm not telling him what he wants to hear.

((((Jeff)))) You have been a lot of help to me in the short time I've been coming to the BB. I have to pay it forward. Nothing else would thank you and the others that have taken the time to write more.