Trixi trying to find moorage

[Trixi]

your H is doing the same thing... and you made it seem like you're going along with his self-delusion.
Booo!

"Booo!" LOL Aren't we supposed to validate the WAS? I did add on that I want more.

Quality vs Quantity-- I can agree that people who want to relieve themselves of feeling guilty might use that. He's probably using that excuse to a degree, too. I do think he was trying to point out that we are *doing* things together; especially since one of his "fears" is that if I move back in we won't do anything; that I'll go back to being a bump on a log....Hey! wait a second! He ALSO said that he thought I 'only' liked 4x4ing because HE liked it and that if I moved back I would have our whole weekends planned. That is pretty much total opposite of 'bump on a log'. huh. Talk about a moving target.

Re him not saying ILY--since he used to say it, I don't view him as the guy where actions speak louder than words. Wait, that came out wrong...What I mean is that, of course actions are important, but I know he is perfectly fine expressing himself with words when he feels like it.

Yeah, he probably was looking for a particular response, but I don't have a clue what it could have been. I know that he probably expected me to get upset or 'up in arms' over the 'the next owners' comment. I mean, come on, he has mentioned selling the house awhile ago (but wants to wait for the 3% prepay to go away) and has said comments about upping the curb appeal. The curb appeal comments don't freak me out because all homeowners are aware of curb appeal and will talk about it even if they have no intention of selling...but now that I think about it, I wonder if he was dropping a hint that he plans to sell in a year. He does speak in 'vague'eries and hints. I wonder if he was counting on me to say "WTH do you mean, "next owners"?" and then he could tell me what he was really thinking. Normally, I *would* have asked- but he was starring at me so pointedly, I didn't want to give in.

Ugh.

OTOH, he gets choked up looking at pictures of us. I do, too, actually. Obviously not for the same reason as him....

He is SOOOO confusing to me.