I must say that the Retrouvaille program is a great one. And I do recommend this to any couple who is having problems, no matter how difficult it seems for them. JAck I did what you said, opened up, and listened to what she had to say. This tool of dialogue may seem so easy but it is not. But it is very effective and does get you in touch with your feelings. I think for the first time in a long time, she has comeback to our marriage whole heartedly. She is the one looking up questions for us to dialogue on starting tonight, and on into the future, because as I know now, you cannot stop working on your marriage it will always be a work in progress.