Question for butterflymom

[Sanderika]

Hi all...

I have been separated from my H since 8/16/05. My H has had the same OW in his life since 8/7/05. OW IS A GERM. The GERM knows she is dating a M man, doesn't care and flaunts it.

I HAVE BEEN HAVING SEX on a regular basis with my H since 1/3/06. The last time was on 7/11/08. We have had more sex in the last 3 yrs than we had in the 3 yrs previous to our separation. I know he feels he is cheating on her, but he is married to me. It does make me sad but I also think "Gotcha B***h...You don't know what you got, it certainly isn't fidelity"

THE SEX IS ONE OF OUR THREADS THAT KEEP US TOGETHER. We are also friends and we treat each other accordingly when present with one another or in front of S12.

My H is in a classic MLC. The OW is total opposite from me. She is a Hard Core Macho Biker B***h!!! 5'10" 180 lbs. body builder bleach blonde hair... OH, AND THEN the DD Fake B**bs and a body covered in tattoos!!!! NOW THAT'S A PRETTY PICTURE!!!
Rides her own hog. D*MN GERMS!!!

ME: 5'2" 110 lbs long brown hair green eyes very petite no tattoos Love to ride but don't drive!!!!!!!

OW IS A GERM....OOPS, I ALREADY SAID THAT!!!!!

H is very attracted to me....The sex is fantastic....He notices everything about me and comments something everytime I see him.
I believe that he comes over or calls just to see if I am still avail. He solicits sex, I rarely do. We are together on the average once a week.

NOW....H is in a funk. S12 is home from school. We used to get together during the day but mostly he will spend the night.
AND....It's Motorcycle season. Enough said. I am wondering if 7/11/08 will be our last time together physically. This is a longer duration than most.

I actually got my MC drivers permit last summer but have never put it to use. I can drive a dirt bike. For me to drive a street bike, I believe I could and probably should.

Another thing....My H does call his OW from here. He goes to the bathroom upstairs or over to our barn. He thinks I don't know what he is doing and he's wrong. I know him so well, his behavior dictates when he will call her. CELL PHONES MAKE AFFAIRS AND CHEATING WAY TOO EASY. He calls her before he shows up here and quite often is on the phone when he arrives. I know he checks on her immediately upon departure. Is always looking a phone to see if any messages arrived...Phone does not ring when here. God Forbid he's not where he is supposed to be and when. The GERM has my H wearing a choke collar with a 1' leash. Stupid H he doesn't see it happening.

I GAL and behave like I am fine with the sitch at hand. I never R talk. I never instigate trivial converation about H whereabouts. I let H begin and then will chime in if I feel it won't muddy the water. I do not call H. I do not ask H for help around the house. I take care of all...inside and out.

I do believe my H and I belong together. I do not know if my H will be guided home. I am working on 180's everyday and H has noticed...believe me H has noticed.

My unfortunate sitch is the 35.5 months, OW aka/GERM, H hasn't taken enough baby steps in my direction and H hasn't accepted any blame for his actions and choices that I am aware of, maybe I am wrong.

He was here Saturday dirt biking w/ S12, I made myself scarce and wasn't readily available when he left for a goodbye. I am sure that got him thinking too.

I like this thread, Treese. I think BFM and FW have a lot of good advice.

Thank you all for listening to me....

Sanderika