Hi Shiny, With all those kind words, I think you qualify for dear friend. I have been visiting this place a long, long time-- about 3 1/2 years. I've recieved a lot and felt a lot of love from/for others here and boy have I learned a lot! I am very grateful for finding this site and these folks!
I am feeling so centered--it's great. I am not stifling my feelings. I can feel angry about this silent treatment, afterall I have never done that to him, and I'm feeling lots of other understandable emotions. But I can work it all the way out to a very calm attitude. He has never been able to express anger and I think he's making up for it with me. But I'm just letting that anger go right by me. I can see that he's surprised by that. Tonight I made him a very nice dinner and watched tv near him while he read. He can be as angry as he needs to be for as long as he needs to be. I'm just going to go about my life, be kind to him, give him plenty of space, but also be available. I'm going to be Ms Rock of Gilbrata, steady, dependable, emotionally self sufficient, and caring. I am actually feeling mostly happy because finally, finally I think I've really made some progress with getting the me I love back. There is nothing better than that! I love the guy but he has to chose his behavior with other people and with me. I'm simply not going to let his behavior choices mess me up! That does neither of us any good! And since I am the designated worker on the relationship. If I go down we both do. It is a good thing I'm strong! (Couldn't say that a while back!)
