"Anyway, I know you said that she needed to focus on one thing at a time. The difference in the male and female is that women are very complex creatures (in case you didn't know...lol) and what affects one area of our life....usually affects the other areas. I don't mean to be talking about her as though I'm talking behind her back, but I was afraid that if I continued to post on her thread today......I may get kicked off. So, what I'm trying to say is that if you will look at something she said about her H. I copied a lot of quotes from posts and the last one I copied really spoke something to me. Please look at it and see if you are seeing the same thing. She and you may get sick of hearing me press this issue, but I think this has to do with the passing away of her dad and everything combined."
We see the same thing.. we just express it different. Your posts are not that long. She need to focus on the "fear". I think it has entered parts of her life.. maybe not to the effect you see it but when it comes to her H.. yea its having a impact. It showed up on the "thought process" with the pool decision. People are going to seek me out when they need a new way to think about things. They are not gonna seek me out to chit chat. I am pretty good on grabbing the idea of where to go.. I can usually tell kinda where the person is in the response to things that happen. I knew something was up just was not really sure what. In her talking I heard and saw it.. she knows the "fear" is there. From your look back.. it has been there a while.. I did not see it then either.. so I missed something.. it happens. She needs to get a handle on the "fear".. needs to talk it out.. how to control it. You know if I am to help her with that.. its not going to be effective.. I am a fixer.. and I am just going to tell her fix it!
Both her and H are scared.. but the are worlds apart in what they are scared of.. I can help her "fix" him.. I am a little bit lacking in the area of her.
I pulled out your key thoughts.. and one from GD.
When you read them they way they are arranged you will understand we (me and you) see the same thing. Me and you are never that far off Sandi2.. we do see a lot of the same things.. we just tend to disagree with how each other says it.
Its just words..
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
