I'm so sorry you went through such a painful experience. It must have been so hard to face those questions...
I am lucky enough that my friends know all about this, and I know they may greet her out of politeness, but they would not engage in anything else with her. To be honest, I don't think I would WANT to be the ow at such events. Then again, I have no desire of ever being the ow.
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus