Wouldn't it be great then, if you could show H what a source of strength you are during this time? Support him in his decisions and help him through it? I know it's hard- my H left home a year ago while he was writing up his doctoral thesis, and it was really hard to support him in it, but I guess it was the right thing to do. I couldn't have controlled him and forced him to stay at home when h didn't want to- he'd have resented me for it and in the long run I think it would have made things worse.
We're still S, but see each other and e-mail regularly. H has an OW, but over the past couple of months I got an ILY and he told me he's unhappy. Baby steps, but something is changing. What DB has taught me is the value of patience; it took 3 months of me being positive and friendly to get my first baby step.
I like the idea of you going to the gym- that might be a way to meet people too. Would the work trip take you a long way away, or would it be relatively close? It'd certainly give H some space to miss you; I wish I'd done that when H was thinking of moving out- it might have had a big impact.....
How can you show H you're a source of strength? Can you describe a situation and how you'd respond?
