also forgot to mention, I emailed her parents that link from Psychology Today that MichelleLT posted in the "OW is like an addiction" thread, page 2. left them a note saying "if you have time you should look into this and share it with mom as it will give you insight into your daughters train of thought."
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
root when i told her paper with $X wasn't set in stone, she threatened to file a complaint with domestics. what do you say there ?
Buster, I'm sorry I haven't read your whole thread and I'm not really sure where you are at, but is ther such a thing as a disso-master wherever you are? Its a program they use in California to determine the amount of support one is entitled to/has to pay their spouse. Its not set in stone either, but it gives you a pretty good idea of the amount that is involved. If shes going to file it, let her file it. You can't control that, just keep doing what the guys are telling you. Drop the gold at her feet.
It looks like you are in VERY capable hands with the people that are posting. Good luck, Buster.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
thank you for the advice and for finally stopping in S&S. is "disso-master" slang for something else ? like a mediator ? that's who we went to. For my son's daycare, food, health insurance, clothes, and diapers it comes out to about 2/3 of what the mediator's worksheet has listed as support obligation.
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2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
Buster, I'm sorry. The "Disso-Master" is a computer program that is used by attorney's and the DA's office in california to determine how much support a person should recieve/have to pay. They use each persons earnings and then factor in items such as union dues, mortgage interest, medical insurance costs (these are only a few)etc... they plug these numbers along with the age of the child and it comes up with an amount that should be in the ball-park of what can be expected. There are other factors, but it gives a pretty good idea of what the support is/will be. You can google disso-master and it should come up with a version of what I'm talking about. If you are going to a mediator, they would have access to the program I'm talking about, but I don't know if they use it anywhere but sunny cali.
Just as a rule of thumb though, keep all the reciepts for ANYTHING you buy for DS.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
puppy I guess you are just telling me in a roundabout way to call her bluffs and leave huh ?
[b]NO!!![/b] The "bye" meant, you leave the room and find something you go have to do at that point, rather than continue to play her game. But you absolutely do, every time she threatens L stuff, say things like "Well, you do what you feel you have to do." Waywards just say those things to get a rise out of betrayed's.
