Suzanne, you need to learn to soothe yourself. And you will be glad you did. When he agrees to call you, you are not in the position you want to be, so it isn't the reassurance you really want.
Wait, and get the love you want.
Give him his real space.
I KNOW how hard this is. I've lived it....and still live it's reduced versions.
The more you do this, the more you put of the longer wait, and the more you do it, the longer it will take (the going dark). Get it over NOW.
Ditto..
Consistency... No blowing up his phone.... 180s
This is the hardest thing to go thru but if you can work on you , it will save you honey...... We all believe in you.... ~Ali
Ditto..