You say you trust him now and you're 100% sure, but that would be very hard. He used your trust to get away with it before. Now he may not get that this is an issue of respect in your mind. It sounds like you're saying he has to make an effort to be above reproach, and just not cheating is not good enough. You want him to be seen making an effort by others, not just you, so it's understood that he respects you.
He may not intend any disrespect, but he is showing it.
What's his crew like? It really sounds like a lot of his infidelity was tied to partying with the crew. You've told us about the woman who worked for him--what about the guys? Do you think they liked him better when he was carousing more? Do they really care whether he stays out to all hours at a bar with them?
I'm not making an excuse for him, I'm wondering whether he uses the crew as his excuse. Also, whether the crews, not just the women you worry about as potential affairs, are working against you right now.
~Wow Bear very insighful... you know I never really was able to put my finger on it but yes he did use my trust against me thank you for that!
THE CREW And yeah that is another Soap Opera/ Novella... the crew and my Hubby... it has been his excuse for what seems like forever... and it has caused many , many problems for us.
THE OW~ never worked for him although he did have an EA~ with one that worked in his bosses office....
Even worse the OW~ was /is still his Sisters BFF ( BEST FRIEND FOREVER )
WOW JUST HAD A THOUGHT .. I COULD WRITE A d*mn MEXICAN NOVELLA~
ANYWAY....
5~ YEP THEY STARTED DRINKING WHEN THEY WERE FISHING!
~NTE... How did you know I had the whip cream out ... you forgot to mention the chocolate syrup and sprinkles....
FIB~ Thanks for being there for me ... you are a sweetheart! You all make me remember that I am worth every ounce of RESPECT that I am "squeezing" out of him...
He is getting better he is just a work in progress... ugh!
I had to work and then today I didnt cook at all he did and I went to a local yearly event called "ART IN the PARK" lots of vendors and I had a good day... So I wanted to post but I figured I would soak up the spoiling for awhile...
You guys are the best and I really am blessed to have your male POV~
