losing sunshine but gaining happiness either way

[sandi2]

Hi LS, just didn't want you to think that I had forgotten about you. I just haven't really known what to say due to the stitch. This is just an idea I have b/c I really know nothing about that lifesyle. However, if your W has lived as a W and mother, then met this OW (as a "friend") but the OW is really a lesbian......I'm thinking the OW has gradually pulled your W over to that lifestyle......emtionally. I don't think it is like a male/female type of A and they meet and have sex for the first time....tearing each other's clothes off and can't get to each other fast enough. I would think the OW would have to work very gradually on your W......by offering her "emotional" support. Then as time goes by and they get closer friends and the OW is giving your W emotional fulfillment......slowly there is some hugs, some hair touching, maybe a kiss on the cheek.....very subtle stuff. What I'm saying is that the OW knows that she has to "convert" your W over to that lifestyle, so it has to be done very slowly and gently or she will scare away and run back to you.

Apparently, your W doesn't know much more than I do if she had to buy some books to read about it. However, it doesn't mean that she has actually had physical sex with the OW yet. Don't know....just a guess.

I don't know what I would do if I were in your shoes.....all the wrong things probably. Man, I hate this for you so much.

Talking about her giving you excuses not to have sex with you. Did she ever say anything about how she must be "adnormal" b/c she didn't feel, act, or do anything like other women? For an example, when they show a man and woman having sex in a movie.....and the woman is really into it.....did you wife ever make any comments about it not being like that in real life....or that she wished she could be more like that? I just wondered if she had doubted her own sexuality for a while.

Sweetie, it's late. Got to go get some sleep. Will be thinking about you.

Take Care,
Sandi