I don't know your history, but I'm sorry your here and feeling down. The behavior your describing from your H is pretty typical behavior of a spouse that's had an affair and is confused/unsure about the marriage.
Have you tried not focusing on what your H is doing and focusing on trying to do things that you enjoy? It's a good thing that your H is still there and doing things with your family. And you're right, it's hard to stay in a marriage that seems one-sided, or live as roommates. How long has this been going on? I take it that his R with OW is over now? How long ago was that?
One thing I see in your post is that ya'll went out.. he talked to you about his feelings.. you didn't get defensive and listened. That's great! You came home and he started wrestling around with you... I think that's a good sign too. he didn't back off until you mentioned sex? Back off a little.. let him initiate physical contact and don't ask for more. let him make the first move. I know how hard this is.. I've been there. If you haven't read DR by Michelle, pick up a copy. I'll say it again.. that he's there with you and doing things with you and the kids is a good sign. Try not to speculate too much about what he's thinking and feeling.. he might not even know himself! Read the posts here and keep asking for support. If ya'll have been best friends, there's a good chance you can save your M if that's your goal.
