WAW and OM

[rpierson10]

Sandi...thanks so much for the advice. Had a really good day today actually. I went and picked up my son at my MIL where my W is staying as she looks for a job. We had a b-day party to go to and then got home later in the afternoon. That's when my W calls and asks if we would like to come over for dinner. She was making a meal that her grandmother makes. You see, my wife doesn't really cook much at all (she bakes really well) so this was impressive in itself. So we all ate dinner together (W, MIL, FIL, me, and our son). It was a very nice night actually!

Her b-day is this week on Thursday. I was thinking about seeing if she wanted to go to a lunch or dinner this week either Tuesday or Wednesday. Obviously, you think that's a bad idea right? I'm just not sure. I did get a super sappy card a few weeks ago but since then have reconsidered. The other day I got her a simple card saying something about how life isn't about the destination but about the journey. Short and sweet.

I'm trying to do the best that I can. Since I blew up at her last weekend we have had several pleasent times together. Last week, she spent time at our house (I use the term "our" because technically her name is still on the mortgages) on Tuesday night, Wednesday night, and Thursday at lunch. I know she wants to see our son and escape from her mom (who sometimes drives her nuts). I'm not for sure if any of it has to do with spending time with me or not? Tonight after dinner we hung out outside and just watched our son play and talked small talk.

I know I have to take baby steps if I ever have the hope of getting her back in my life. I'm really trying to out-shine this other guy. He's a "chump" from what I know. But he's giving her what I wasn't able to or didn't know that I wasn't I guess. She admitted to me that her and this OM are very different people but that they balance each other out. I wanted to tell her "B.S" but I didn't.

I haven't asked about him or her R with him for quite a while and she hasn't mentioned him. Makes it a bit easier. I really just don't think she knows what she wants. She didn't get to experience her early 20's because she got married and had a child so soon. So I understand her need for independence right now. I just hope that she can somehow realize how important our family is and that I would be more than willing to grant her some independence if it meant saving our marriage and holding our family together!

Thanks again for the words of support. Look forard to talking with you soon!

Rodney