Really upside down #2

[upside_downer]

Here is my question of the hour:

When you are dealing with a WAS, and they tell you they just want to be able to talk normally, or just say "hi," how do you make those conversations worthwhile? From my experience right now, when I'm trying to keep things "light" I say hello and let her respond. I ask how she is and I wait for her to respond. After that....I'm tempted to end the conversation.

How long before they realize you are just trying to be friendly? How much is too much? I know some of this is variable and subject to a specific sitch, but any of you go through this where you couldn't stop talking about the R, and had to try to just keep the conversation light-hearted?