Pam have you thought about asking him what he wants? i say this only because to me it sounds as if he needs a shove in the right direction and he is almost like a scared little kid and needs some direction. i also think that the fact that he still wants you in his life shows you that this relationship is not over. let me ask you something and be honest. if you did not feel good about completely letting him go and to stay away from the house, then why did you do it? as idiotic as it sounds only you can make your own decisions and only you know in your heart what the right thing is for your life. so what if you both putter along for a bit longer there is no time line or specific date that he has to be back for. no of course this is my personal opinion but I really do beleive from what you have said that this may not have been the absolute best choice for you, but i also think you made this choice because you are so emotionally spent and just wanted to have him hurry up and make a choice. you sound like a very level headed woman and the words you use in your post to describe your husband show how much you really do love him. please dont allow any anger or bitterness to take root as you have done so well and have come so far. trust God to help you to continue this journey with the same love and grace you have had towards your husband so far. it is good to establish boundaries and it is good to have zero expectaions but if you also make things to be so unattainable and hard to reach you may end up with regrets. Pam, love never fails.
