Be as accomodating as you can to your pastor, i think he's your Ace of Spades here. If he knows you will do whatever he wants then he will be really adamant about the marriage working out. He just needs to know you have matured into a responsible family member.
Other men just look like predators in comparison to that.
My guess is you would NEVER even think about violating a home like this guy has done now that you have lived through it.
It is a real wake up call to have someone creep into your home, take a chainsaw to your marriage, and turn your spouse against you in an eyeblink. My guess is you really understand how delicate a household is now, and how important it is to support and protect it at all costs.
THIS GUY, this OM, clearly isn't mature enough to grasp that, so he's going to make a lot of mistakes in teh LONG TERM, right now he just looks like an ass. You two may have been the same guy some time ago, but my guess is you have far outdistanced him on the maturity scale now.
