No worries Buster, those are always difficult to handle.
You have to gauge what she's looking for and decide what response from that will bring her closer to you. Often times you have to fly by the seat of your pants becasue of the ridiculous things people having affairs toss at you.
If her asking "Do you think we might get back together" was her baiting you to say "yes" so she can offer a resounding "you are out of your freaking mind" then ya, avoid that one. If she wanted to hear there was hope then sure throw her a bone, you have to gauge the tone in her voice there...tough call.
I don't know what she is trying to threaten you with here, but as long as you keep yourself on the straight and narrow and she is cheating, going out drinking, and avoiding MC and her church then SHE looks like the bad guy and I can't imagine anyone giving you a hassle comparatively.
Don't do anything right now that would reflect badly on you publically...drinking, drugs, hitting the casino, etc...just go to church, maintain some healthy socially active hobbies, and keep bing the father your son needs and you should be safe from anything she can throw at you right now.
I think you handled the conversation well, as best as can be when dealing with hostile wayward spouses. I find it ironic that she would use word "fair" in a sentence while she's openly cheating on you. Its a tragic scene, always is. If she had any idea how to even spell fair she wouldn't be cheating in the first place.
Well done overall, its best to just stave off the hostilities if you can. make sure you cover your butt legally so she can't do anything against you. If she gets legal you can always take her son away untli she grows up a bit...that may wake her up just a tad, but hold that card until you absolutely have to play it.
I really don't know why she would be the primary caregiver if she's the one cheating, partying, and drinking. Its a disgrace and any government official should be able to see who is being the child in this conflict...keep your head high and your rep clean and you are untouchable.
