I'll try to be as descriptive as I can here, with dialogue. I just dropped our son off at our house; wife wanted to talk about support payments and sort of make a "plan" for them since we get paid bi-weekly. I asked her how much it cost monthly to support our son, and not just what the paper (X) said. She was visibly frustrated by a number of things, including the divorce. she says "Do you think we might get back together?" I said that I wasn't there to talk about that, and I wasn't worried about it either. and she said "well I am" I am assuming she meant she is worried that I think we have a chance, when in her eyes we don't. She asked "why won't you let me divorce you?" objectively I stated I didn't know I wasn't "letting her" and that I don't believe in divorce or tearing up a family, reminding her a few times that I want what's best for our family, especially our son. Although our son is young, he will still be affected by this. I got the usual "I don't want to be married to you" to which I replied "well I'm sorry you feel that way and I realize marriage is a want, not a need, and at first I thought this was the end of the world but I know it isn't and life has gone on for me." when i told her the paper with (X number of dollars) wasn't set in stone or official, she immediately retaliated with "do you want me to file a complaint with domestics ?" to which I replied "being civil and mature does not include threats." She said "I'm not threatening, you tell me what you think is a fair number." Overall not a good conversation, but I left her wondering what I am really thinking. I gave her the impression I felt we weren't getting back together and it wasn't a personal death if we didn't.
2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF
