boy, she is a basketcase all right, sorry, her attitude at work, her comments to her friend, yikes, sounds like she wants to be a teenage all over again.
Step away and keep doing things for YOU, she needs a lot of growing up to do.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
well Thursday night we were going to see a movie but her one friend was leaving for a month so we met at a brew pub instead ( yay drunk angry waw) I really didn't talk to her much. I gave her space and talked to the other husbands/boyfriends. it was cool as a lot of the guys were interested in my strongman stuff. well we left that brew pup because it was a out door beer garden and went to a different one. Once again i didn't try to start conversation with my W just hung out. During the conversations I heard one of the other guys tell my W " I like Marcum he should come around more often." my wife gave me a side long look but didn't say anything
well I had to leave for a hour to give a drunk friend a ride home. before i did my W said if I could i should come back! I was so happy. the problem was when i came back all of her friends had left as it was midnight and she was still there, drunk. she went into this big speech how this was her bar and she was so well known. well this creepy guy was hitting on my W but instead of getting mad i just joined the conversation. this guy was a classic bar creep but my W was actually finding his " lines " funny. well when he went to the bathroom she told me her bartend s their and she has known him for t months and they are just friends. it turns out hes a 39 year old comic who travels and bartend s to make ends meet, a real winner!! anyway she goes on to say how he sleeps on her couch because he gets to drunk to drive and he will probably be sleeping there tonight. I didn't get made I just finished my beer and told her to be safe and have a good night, but i better get going.
folks I was a sobbing mess but then the next day she called me to say she had a good time. she is acting so destructive and not her self its almost laughable as it classically follows the mid life crises. I guess I will just keep my distance still and wit.
on a different note she called me again Friday night to tell me our stimuli's check had finally arrived. i made a quick mistake and called her back to say thanks. i failed in the rule were she didn't ask a question so i shouldn't have called her back. i did keep it quick. she mentioned she wants to maybe still see wall-e, but she was going to a baseball game on Sunday so she might be to drunk as its through " her bar" and its a all you can drink deal. impressive. I will let her call me.
well two weeks and she hasent talked to me. his sucks. I am sooo afraid she is takeing this time to forget about me. since our last real contact was to tell me how nice a time she had with me i did call and ask her to a movie last week .. no responce so now im sticking to my guns and not calling, period.
she cant use the " your not trying so why should I" as I did make the last contact. I am working on me in a lot of ways, seeing friends a lot more and doing things I want to do. today is just a low day as i thought she might miss me a little. she has just throw away all of our good times and cant seem to find the want to bring them to mind.
yep seems like a common theme here, no good times only bad.. we can only control what we do not them.. i don't know if i can quite give advice yet, as even tho i am doing well myself, i believe i am a failure at DB and DR.. keep updating Marcum..
Marcum! This still sucks! Patience is too hard. Two weeks. I wish there was something I could do. I am still in the same hell I was in the last time we wrote. I do have a story that helps me with patience. In 1981 my girlfriend left me for my best friend. I was devastated. Probably felt like I feel now. Anyway, I just heard that she is divorced again and would love to see me. 27 years later I can finally fix that broken heart. I have waited 8 months for W of 13 years. Perhaps we just need to relax and move on because we were good to them and they are going to need us again one day. This thought helps me a little bit. Not enough. Nothing ever seems to be enough. Keep living. Turn this into something good. A great opportunity to live. I am going to practice what I preach tomorrow. Not today. Today I feel the need to dwell in depression. Good luck. I'm watching out for you.
Me 41 W 39 d7, s4 M 13 Bomb ILYBNILWY November 28th, 2007
I just want to call and say " hey want to see a movie?" but im walking a tight rope. Im told " hey i had a great time with ya" i think i will try tommorow. if she hates it so be it, if it drives her away for me to be even a friend so be it. Im kind of feeling done and if she isa driven away by me being a nice guy then why would I want her in my live? I lover its true and if I look at pics i tear up, but a lot of toimes latley its hard to want to keep fighting if everything I do is wrong.
I don't think that's a bad idea. Your wife does want to be persued after all. I think it would be fine to just call and say, "How are you doing? Hope things are going well for you. Want to try to catch a movie this week?"
Me 36 Husband 35 D5 S2 separated: 10/29/07-present Served divorce papers 1/22/09 "When the world gives out beneath your feet, it is time to learn how to fly."
Marcum, it sounds real tough right now. I understand a little how you feel at where to draw the line between being who you are and DB. I don't really see anything wrong with inviting her to a movie and I hope it turns out well.
