"i'm down today. almost as if i doubt things will ever get better than they are now....casual friends. it sucks."

I am gonna play with your words here.. but isn't this what has been missing from your relationship.. all along? I mean.. you have had sex.. should this not be something to focus on for a while? Call me crazy!

"does it get better? How many people's marriages actually survive this mess and get stronger?"

I know of two... and I am one of them.. SmartCookie is the other one.

Relax
Eat
Think
Act normal
React.. Smartly.
Do something different.
Emulate.
Do Work.

Lets get "RETARDED" in here.