I was going to lurk for the rest of the day, but I just can't. Your story is so *inspiring.* You need to know that I believe you are an AWESOME woman! You have loved your man for so long and now you are loving yourself. I see this as a great thing for you.
I admire your courage, your wisdom, your tolerance and your tenacity. If I were you, I would do the thing that most makes you feel *comfortable.* It's all right there, written in your heart! I can see that you have been around for a LONG time and do not post much.
I would like to see you have a thread of your own, but that's just me. I believe you should tell your husband that you have come to the "conclusion that there are some boundaries that need not be broken anymore, ever, again, until and unless" he makes up his mind what he wants. And, if that is you, then he MUST follow your heart and come home. If not, then he MUST respect your boundaries.
That is only what I would do, Pam. But I am often a strong-willed woman. Please go with your own gut! Remember. We are here to help you through it not to do it for you.
